Heartbroken
Ranj, I was dumped by my boyfriend of 2 years. He didn't give me a good reason. He just said that he wasn't in love with me anymore. Everything I look at in my apartment reminds me of him and it makes me so depressed. What can I do to get over him? Can I win him back? -Heartbroken in Philadelphia
Dear Heartbroken, You have to close that chapter of your life. You can't get him back and even if you did; the relationship would not be the same. It is possible to fall out of love with someone. This is why the divorce rate in the United States is so high.The first thing I would do is get rid of the useless stuff that reminds you of him. If everything in your apartment reminds you of him you'll just have to get over it. You have to put him behind you. Spend a day loathing in depression, so you can get it out of your system. Listen to some sympathetic music about heartbreak, watch some tear-jerking movies, and cry yourself to sleep. Releasing emotions is good for you. If you keep your emotions bottled up inside they will eat you up. Do not let the depression take you to suicide; because, suicide is “a permanent answer to a temporary problem”. Then, after the tears dry, lift your head up high and realize that you don't need him and/or you can find better.Then, you have two choices: 1) stay independent and single for a while or 2) put yourself back out there and meet someone new. If you choose to put yourself back on the market without a lapse, realize that during the first few dates you may be comparing the guys you date to the jerk that left. This is normal and it is just unfortunate for the guys you date. So, go boyfriend shopping and you might find someone you like more than your ex. A few recommended free dating sites are: www.plentyoffish.com , www.mingle2.com and www.datehookup.com. Oh and be careful because the Internet dating world can be a dangerous place. Be sure to screen your dates carefully and always meet in a public location.
Posted by Randall at 3/11/2009 11:56 AM 
Categories: advice, relationships, Hey Ranj
Tags: advice relationship advice Heartbrake
Categories: advice, relationships, Hey Ranj
Tags: advice relationship advice Heartbrake
a recent break up is always hard to deal with, but don't be too quick to get over it. The pain we feel when we have lost something is our way of getting over it, its a process that you must go through so your mind can come to terms and understand what is happeing to you, then eventually, you will come to realize that things happen for a reason and maybe you need to just look forward now.
Keep yourself busy, but don't jump into another relationship until you have accepted the loss of this relationship, otherwise your new relationship will be doomed from the start.
Once you feel ready, then you can try dating again, there are plenty of dating sites out there if you are too shy to do it the conventional way, such as www.smooch.com , plenty of fish, match.com the world is your oyster as far as dating sites go.
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