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Hey Ranj,

I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and I think that my girlfriend may be cheating on me because there are many times throughout the day in which she won't answer her phone or respond to my text messages. Also, she's been having a lot of girls nights lately. Does this seem fishy to you? How can I determine if my girlfriend is cheating on me? -Nice Guy, Dover, Delaware

Hey Nice Guy,

I think you may be becoming a little too clingy and needy. It appears to me that she just needs some space. Have you NOT called her for any extended length of time? Just because she doesn't answer or respond to text doesn't necessarily mean that she's avoiding you. It very well could be true that she is avoiding you, but in her defense she may be busy and may not be able to answer or text back right away. I'm not saying she is cheating and I'm not saying that she is not cheating because I don't know. My advice to you is to create some space and stop being so damn needy. Don't call her for a day and see if she calls you. If she doesn't call you and you have no communication what-so-ever throughout a full 24 hour day then, I'd start to suspect something.

You must have learned that nice guys finish last; that is because they let their women walk all over them and take advantage of their generosity. So, that being said. Stop being so damn nice. Sure letting her go out with her girlfriends is fine but not if she is doing it every week-end. Does she choose to hang out with her girlfriends over spending time with you? You have to tell her how you feel. Tell her that you think she might be cheating and pay attention to how she responds. This may clue you in to if she is cheating or if she is just in need of a little space. You can be nice and still come out on top but, just be weary of people that may take advantage of you. If you suspect someone is taking advantage of you, you have to let them know that you're not going to let them walk over you anymore.

Here's a link to help you determine if your girlfriend is cheating on you: How to tell if your girlfriend is cheating.