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Hey Ranj: I've heard so many men say that they would love to meet a nymphomaniac. Speaking as someone with experience in this situation, I advise any man who meets a nymphomaniac to run!

I was married to a woman that was diagnosed as a sex addict and nymphomaniac. At first, I thought I was in heaven. I have a huge sexual appetite and I thought I needed a nympho to keep up with me. I didn't learn about the downside until much later.

Every day after I left for work, some other man came over to the house and spent the day with my wife. And when I got deployed to Iraq, my wife disappeared. I later learned that she was going out to bars and clubs, having sex with anyone and everyone who would, and contracting multiple STDs in the process. At the time it happened I was pissed off at her. Now I realize she was driven by an addiction over which she had no control. So some advice from me to your readers is: unless you are prepared to spend every minute of every day with your nymphomaniac, expect to share her -- with the world. – LESSON LEARNED

Hey LESSON LEARNED: Your story is proof that sometimes there CAN be too much of a good thing. I’ve always been intrigued by addictive behaviors. Personally, I’ve overcome a couple of secret addictions; I managed to do this without any intervention, rehab, or alternative drugs. When it comes down to it, every addiction is mental and can be overcome with enough willpower. It’s true that overcoming addictions can be extremely difficult and some people just don’t have enough strength to do it. It seems like your wife was one of these people. I appreciate your insightful advice on the subject and I hope that other people learn from your experience.

An additional word of advice for those with personal vices ruining their lives is to simply say no. Nothing becomes a problem until you let it; when something is abused to a point in which the body and/or mind can become addicted and dependent on it, it becomes a serious problem. Whether it is sex, drugs, food, gambling, or any other vice, the key is moderation. Moderation in all things is not only advisable; but mandatory to live a mentally and physically balanced life.