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Hey Ranj: I visit your page every day. I think it’s great that we have someone other than Dear Abby to ask advice from. I'm a 23-year-old college student with a little problem. I dated a guy I'll call "Charlie" for about a month, maybe a little longer. Then we broke up because he said he wasn't over his last girlfriend. I know now it was a lie, since I found out they had never actually broken up -- he just cheated on her with me.

The problem is we’re still friends and about a week ago, I ran into him, out at the local pub and we ended up having sex. I thought it meant something, and I believed him when he said he'd call me the next day, but he never called. In fact, he never said another word about it.

Should I act like nothing ever happened too -- even though it kills me -- or should I pursue him? – Embarrassed in Alpena, MI

Hey Embarrassed: Treat this as a learning experience. "Charlie" is a user who has lied to you at least twice and cheats on his girlfriend. There is no need to break off the friendship because there was no friendship to begin with. If you're smart, you'll steer clear of him in the future, because guys who behave like this will bring you nothing but pain. Even if the sex was great, you have to forget about him and move on. Get over him and find someone that you don’t have to share.